Techniques in Dealing with Offensive Language in an Elderly Loved One

????????????????????????????????????????Are you having trouble with your elderly loved one’s aggressive behavior?  Does he refuse to stop using foul language even though you’ve had many conversations with him about it?  The use of offensive language among the elderly is more common than you know; it’s very normal for seniors to have this problem if they have a urinary tract infection (UTI), Tourette Syndrome, or especially Alzheimer’s and/or dementia.

Why It Happens and What to Do about It

Dementia is a common disease among the elderly that causes memory loss, breakdown of inhibition, personality changes, and speech problems.  As dementia progresses to advanced stages, the elderly person eventually loses his ability to speak at all, but in the interim, his ability to control himself and refrain from using curse words is lost due to changes in his brain structure.  The key is not to take it personally.  The next time your elderly loved one starts spouting off curse words, try the following techniques:

  • Remain calm. Maintaining your composure will calm down your loved one when he sees that you are not getting upset by his behavior or words.
  • Use a firm tone of voice. In the early stages of dementia, it’s still possible to set boundaries with your loved one.  Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t, but if it doesn’t, remain calm and understand that his actions and words are most likely involuntary.
  • Go with the flow. Preserve your energy, enjoy the day and let his words roll off your back.
  • Redirect his attention. Change the subject of the conversation.  Bring up happy memories from the past. Turn on his favorite TV show if you’re at home.
  • When in public, don’t enable her by offering up excuses for her behavior. Don’t say she’s having a “bad day” when Alzheimer’s is the real issue.  If you feel compelled to explain her behavior to others, just say she has dementia.  Most likely others will understand if they’ve been in your shoes; don’t worry too much about other people’s opinions about your loved one.

About A-1 Home Care

A-1 Home Care is a licensed, bonded and insured agency that provides high quality Alzheimer’s & Dementia Care to seniors all over LA County.  Established in 1991, A-1 Home Care has provided exceptional in-home care services that not only meet the needs of the elderly but also protect them from scam artists, predators, theft and fraud.  All our caregivers are required to pass an extensive criminal background check, and we verify every professional reference.  You can enjoy affordable 24 hour Alzheimer’s and Dementia Care 7 days a week, 365 days a year!

For quality Dementia Care, contact us today at (562) 929-8400 or (949) 650-3800 or visit our website for services in Santa Monica, Hollywood, Pasadena, Burbank, Culver City, and other cities throughout Los Angeles County.


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